Listening as a Feminist Tool

This week I’ve been thinking about being a feminist presence in the world around me. How do I use my voice to encourage or undermine other women’s positive, feminist efforts? When should I speak and when is my silence called for so others can process and express their experiences and thoughts?

Many of us have felt silenced or disregarded in countless areas of our lives. Once we find our voice and the courage to use it, it is often tempting to speak at every opportunity. But this week I’m reflecting on the power of listening as a tool of feminism.

By listening I mean really taking the time to focus on what someone else is saying, not with an eye toward responding, but in a true, open effort to understand that person’s ideas and point of view. Open listening gives me the chance to connect with another person on a human, caring level. Even if I disagree with what the person is saying, open listening can help me understand where she is coming from and be at peace with the differences in our perspectives.

If you’ve ever had the experience of being truly listened to – when someone looks you in the eye and really focuses on what you’re saying, asking thoughtful questions that tell you she is engaged with your thoughts and ideas – you know how validating and affirming the experience is. As we work to develop and express our feminist voices, let’s each consider how we can also encourage the development of MANY voices and perspectives by working on the skill of active, open listening as well.